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He Serves Humbly

โ€œI am Jesus, whom you are persecuting,โ€ He replied.  โ€œNow get up and go into the city and you will be told what to do.โ€  Acts 9:5-6

I did not grow up in a strong, male-led home.  My father was a sweet man who worked a lot.  When he got home from work we ate dinner, he showered, and then fixed himself dessert and watched TV.  On the weekends we didnโ€™t do family activities and outings.  He was just, well, there.  Not bad and not great.  He is an atheist who believes he can work through any problem in life in his own head.

So, when I met my father-in-law, I expected the same.  But I couldnโ€™t have been more wrong.  One of my first encounters with John Shetter lives on in infamy.  And yet shows his commitment to humbly serving others.  You see, I was out visiting my then boyfriend and his parents and we took a short drive from their hometown into nearby Boulder, Colorado.  After a nice morning we had lunch, walked around a bit then headed back for the 20 minute drive home.  Suddenly, my lunch decided it wasnโ€™t agreeing with me.  I whispered to my boyfriend that trouble was brewing.  He then turned to John, who was driving, and said I needed a bathroom โ€“ pronto.

The car seemed to have entered hyper speed and we may have turned into the driveway on two wheels.  The first out of the car was John.  He ran to the front door with keys ready and flew the door open for me.  Iโ€™m not sure if I have ever been more grateful in my life!

A funny tale for sure but Johnโ€™s desire to make sure my needs were met as quickly as possible is his calling card throughout his life.

Dad is dedicated to Jesusโ€™ teachings – he approaches all people with consideration, thoughtfulness and patience.  He has given himself in service to so many entities:  church, senior center, hospital, YMCA, underprivileged children.  To serve others, therefore serving God is in his DNA. 

Dan Shetter, youngest son

I didnโ€™t grow up around any devoted Christian men in my life.  In fact, most of the men Iโ€™d been around, either through work or school, were not the โ€œhumble servantโ€ types.  To see a strong, head of household with a job in the corporate world balance those roles with the character of Jesus is truly a great lesson for us all.

And he wasnโ€™t alone.  I found, as I married Johnโ€™s son and met so many of their family friends, that he was surrounded by men of humble servanthood.  Men who attended church regularly, went to Bible study, volunteered throughout the community, loved on their families, and talked comfortably about praying for others.  They are bankers and realtors, teachers and business owners.

Johnโ€™s service to the community is something he prefers to โ€œkeep behind the scenes.โ€  His commitment to our church is exceptional as he has served in leadership, providing childrenโ€™s messages, and many other tasks too numerous to mention!

Longtime friend, Chuck Allen

My younger daughter recently told me that one of her companyโ€™s core values was that everyone be willing to make the office coffee.  I love that.  It makes it clear that no task is too small for anyone throughout the organization.  During a particularly busy season they asked the corporate staff to give one hour a week to the production floor because they were behind on orders.  No job is too big or too small for even the CEO.

Thatโ€™s how John sees his life.  A few years ago, he helped set up a warming shelter at his church.  On particularly cold nights they open their doors for the homeless to spend the night.  But he didnโ€™t just help set it up.  I have been at their home when he headed off to his shift in the dead of night.  No bells or whistles.  In fact, I wasnโ€™t sure where he was going at first.  Just off to serve the Lordโ€™s flock.

โ€œYou see that his faith and his actions were working together, and his faith was made complete by what he did.โ€  James 2:22

He has even turned his favorite pastime into an act of service.  He loves historical stories, especially related to the old West.  He trained to become an official storyteller, a โ€œSpellbinder,โ€ just so he could go into schools and share his tales.  This imposing 6โ€™ man sits in a tiny school chair and regularly spins yarns about Indian folklore and pioneer heroes.  All because he loves to see smiling little faces.

John doesnโ€™t wait for someone else to fix a problem.  He turns to the Lord for direction and takes a step forward.  He may not always get it right but he knows he is always working from the right heart.  

Thereโ€™s a lot of โ€œJohnsโ€ out there in the world.  Men carrying the weight of their family.  Men on their knees praying for Godโ€™s guidance.  Men serving their communities and answering the call to, โ€œfeed my sheep.โ€  So many serve quietly and humbly and we might overlook them.  The noise today is that men are evil, men are self-serving, men need to be less like, well, โ€œmen.โ€  But it is on men, like Saul in our first verse, to whom Jesus placed the weight of the world to spread the Good News.

A humble servant.  A man of strength.  Those arenโ€™t mutually exclusive.  They are an opportunity to achieve Godโ€™s holy balance.  


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Laying By The Pool

Then Jesus said to him, โ€œGet up! Pick up your mat and walk.โ€  At once, the man was cured. John 5:8

โ€œLord Jesus, I offer myself for Your people.  In any way.  Any place.  Any time.โ€

Corrie Ten Boom, The Hiding Place

I was reading recently about what it meant that Jesus called Himself a humble servant of God.  To some that seems contrary โ€“ for someone to call themselves โ€œhumble.โ€  And at the time of Jesus the word โ€œhumbleโ€ was a vile and contemptible thing.  According to Christian author Charles Jefferson, there was no virtue in the all the pagan world known as “humility.”  It was a defect.  

As Christianity spread across the world so did its values.  One of its unique additions to the world was the concept of Christ-like humility and servitude.   It is possibly one of the most misunderstood of Christian values.  To some, it means having a low estimate of ourselves.  To others it means we deny ourselves and make ourselves inferior.  But if we accept all of Christโ€™s words as true we then must also accept these:

โ€œI am meek and lowly in heart.โ€  Matthew 11:29

And yet we have never met a person who held their head higher, with more confidence, with such loftiness, as Jesus.  So often it seems we create a vision of the various character traits of Jesus and each believer then feels they must change their personalities to fit that ideal.  When we picture a meek and humble person (not Jesus) do we imagine a rich person?  Do we picture a courageous and bold person?  Or do we picture a small, weak person who lets people walk all over her?

As Iโ€™ve progressed in my faith this concept of being a humble servant is something Iโ€™ve really mulled over.  Iโ€™ve tried โ€œplayingโ€ various roles that seem to fit the ideal.  And itโ€™s funny.  When I try to be so quiet and meek-like it usually backfires.  The recipient can tell Iโ€™m being a phony.

About a year ago I heard about the book, โ€œThe Hiding Place.โ€  I know many Christians have read this at some point in their lives.  As a refresher, the story is a Christian family from Holland living at the start of World War II.  As Hitlerโ€™s army advances, the local Jewish community starts to disappear.  Two of the main characters, sisters Betsie and Corrie Ten Boom, find themselves answering Godโ€™s call to not just hide Jews but also play integral roles in the underground system of protecting Jews from all over.  What struck me about this book were the opposite personalities of the sisters.  Both answering Godโ€™s call to be humble servants in their own ways.

Corrie was the bold one.  She found herself tasked with much of the dangerous work outside their home.  While in prison it was Corrie who dealt with the officials.  Lest we think this was easy for her because of a strong faith, Corrie frequently questioned God about what He wanted her to do.  And each time she prayed.  And each time either a word from God or someone close to her encouraged her to move on His command.  Near the beginning of their story, Corrie is tasked with obtaining extra food rations cards.  She was led to speak with a local man who recently took a job in the Food Office.  But she wasnโ€™t sure it would be safe.

โ€œLord,โ€ I prayed silently, โ€œif it is not safe to confide in Fred, stop this conversation now before it is too late.โ€  

Corrie Ten Boom, The Hiding Place

She found herself asking not for five cards but suddenly 100.    And within a week they were in her hands.  The danger she faced โ€“ being turned into the authorities– was replaced with her trust in Godโ€™s urging for her to be a โ€œdoing Christian.โ€

Throughout her ordeal, while at home and eventually in prison, she wanted to be so angry with the Germans and those who supported them.  She balked at loving her enemies and showing them mercy.  Really, who could blame her?  And yet over and over she submitted her heart and hands to God.

โ€œMy job was simply to follow His leading one step at a time, holding every decision up to Him in prayer,โ€ she wrote.  โ€œI knew I was not clever or subtle or sophisticated; if my home was becoming a meeting place for need and supply, it was through some strategy far higher than mine.โ€  

Corrie Ten Boom, The Hiding Place

You can contrast her submission to God with a local pastor she encounters.  He, on the other hand, when asked to take in a Jewish mother and child into his home was clearly frightened.  He admonished her for the โ€œillegalโ€ activity and warned her that what she was doing wasnโ€™t safe.

The concept of being a humble servant doesnโ€™t require of us to be a person of a certain personality or style of living.  A longtime pastor can fail while a wealthy man can succeed at this effort.  Throughout “The Hiding Place” one such wealthy man aids the underground effort with both his money and his own hands. 

In all of Jesusโ€™ teachings we see Him asking us to do two things: love one another and take action.  Like the man at the pool who had been waiting for healing for almost 40 years he asks us to first believe Him then get up and start moving.  Along the way he wants us to be teachable and willing to learn.  He asks us to put aside our vanity and social aspirations.  He tasks us to serve and feed His sheep.  He doesnโ€™t ask us to underestimate ourselves, make ourselves small, or feel unworthy.  In fact, He wants us to stand firm in the knowledge we are doing His work.

Corrie Ten Boom was bold and faithful and humble at the same time. She was always looking to serve the less fortunate and those in need.  And when she forgot about serving her enemies, her sister stepped forward to remind her.

I once took a leadership personality test at a conference.  The results werenโ€™t that surprising.  I have a bold personality and Iโ€™m good at organizing.  But what makes any leadership situation successful for me is to be paired with a softer, gentler leader.  That person remembers those who arenโ€™t as obvious and reminds me to slow down to see the whole picture.

Betsie Ten Boom was that kind of leader.  The book in which they are written of highlights her bold sister, Corrie.  But itโ€™s this quieter, gentler servant of God that I saw as a thread throughout.  It was Betsie who would send up prayers for the Germans soldiers who were torturing them.  It was Betsy who thanked God for fleas in their new barracks.  While Corrie was dealing with the big problems, it was her quiet sister drawing people out of the shadows for prayer meetings in the middle of the night.

During one difficult transfer to yet another barracks, the women were made to stand for hours and hours.  The two sisterโ€™s personalities and approach to being Godโ€™s servants was evident in this exchange:

โ€œBetsie!โ€ I wailed, โ€œhow long will this take!โ€

โ€œPerhaps a long, long time.  Perhaps many years.  But what better way could there be to spend our lives?โ€ Betsie replied.

I turned to stare at her.  โ€œWhatever are you talking about?โ€

โ€œThese young women.  That young girl back at the bunkers, Corrie, if people can be taught to hate, they can be taught to love!  We must find a way, you and I, no matter how long it takesโ€ฆโ€ Betsie said with excitement.

Are we that excited to serve God humbly? To be teachable, free from ambition, and vanity?  Have we looked Jesus in the eye and said, โ€œI trust you.โ€  And when He has told you to get up and pick up your mat have you obeyed Him?  Or have you decided that you arenโ€™t โ€œgood enough,โ€ โ€œstrong enough,โ€ or โ€œsmart enough?โ€  

Are you laying around by the pool, waiting for someone else to do the work for you? If you keep saying to God, โ€œshow me what you want me to doโ€ and have yet to walk out your front door and serve your neighbors youโ€™ve missed the point.  He takes all types in His Great Army.  Get your mat and get moving.

โ€œAll of us are different, but all of us can serve the Lord for His glory.โ€  

Warren Wiersbe

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Step 2: Humble Servant

Jesus said, โ€œFeed my lambs.โ€ John 21:15

Since the resurrection of Jesus, Christians seem to have been in an interesting battle.  The concept of how we are saved has led to many sermons, books, and even paper nailed to church doors.  The prevailing answer in the modern church age is, of course, that we are saved by grace.  The grace of Jesus Christ dying for our sins.  

If you declare with your mouth, โ€œJesus is Lord,โ€ and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.  Romans 10:9

That passage from Romans couldnโ€™t be clearer and yet the concept of being saved by works and/or financial contributions to the church ran throughout Christendom for a long time.  Unfortunately, much of our Christian thinking seems to have swung so far in the opposite direction that we have forgotten the other lessons in the Bible.

What good is it, my brothers and sisters, if someone claims to have faith but has no deeds? Can such faith save them? James 2:14

As my BSGs work our way through a study of Revelation I keep hearing a few of the same messages.  1) We must repent of our sins and accept Christ today and 2) Our deeds will be counted in eternity.  That balance of accepting Godโ€™s grace and also working to please Him echoes so many other Christian balancing acts.

  • Expressing Godโ€™s Truth while showing Godโ€™s Love
  • His Word is both bitter and sweet
  • To live in this world but not of it
  • Accepting chastisement as a method of Godโ€™s love for us

I wonder how many of us each Sunday (or whatever day you attend church) receive constant training on how to walk those balance beams?

This weekโ€™s Jesus Mindset focuses on being a humble servant.  The character trait requires of us to first be somewhat practiced at being a loving friend.  For when we take action in the name of God without a loving spirit it becomes almost impossible to be humble.  Iโ€™m sure each of us can think of a person in our lives who took on responsibilities simply to gain some sort of recognition.  A church body that forgets Jesusโ€™ primary character trait โ€“ loving friend โ€“ becomes like the church of Ephesus.  They were โ€œdoingโ€ a lot and building larger, more grand buildings but doing it without love.

โ€œThe church used to be known for its good deeds,โ€ said one wit, โ€œbut today itโ€™s better known for its bad mortgages.โ€

The evolution from love of neighbor to deeds without love creates a hulking body that God eventually is clearly unhappy with.  And so, we find ourselves searching for the balance.  This week I will highlight three people.  Two sisters and a quiet, humble man.  Each has their own way of โ€œfeedingโ€ Godโ€™s lambs.  Each have different personalities.  They each find a way to reach that balance of knowing they are saved by grace and yet God asks more of us.  

I love this quote from the book, โ€œThe Hiding Place,โ€ which tells the story of love and servanthood in the face of extreme adversity.  This moment takes place as a member of the family is about to die.  They remind her of all the amazing things she did in life because โ€œaccomplishmentโ€ meant so much to her.  But in her final moments Jesus spoke to her heart and reminded her of Godโ€™s truths.

โ€œHow can we bring anything to God? What does He care for our little tricks and trinkets?โ€ she asked.  And then as we listened in disbelief she lowered her hands and with tears still coursing down her face whispered, โ€œDear Jesus, I thank You that we must come with empty hands.  I thank you that You have done all on the Cross and that all we need in life or death is to be sure of this.โ€

Tante Jans, The Hiding Place

With empty, well-worn hands.  Hands worn with the work for Jesus.  For when we die we wonโ€™t take the certificates of recognition, the medals, the bonuses with us.  But each person we have fed, in His name, will be etched in our hands and hearts.

Then He said to his disciples, โ€œThe harvest is plentiful but the workers are few.โ€ Matthew 9:37

Jesus has plenty of work for us to do.  The majority of that work could be called โ€œgrunt work.โ€ It requires us to get uncomfortable and place our trust solely in the Lordโ€™s hands.  You probably wonโ€™t receive any money for it or a headline in the local paper.  What we will receive is a smile from Jesus.

My friend Betsy told me the other day how, while out shopping, she saw a homeless man in an adjoining parking lot.  He was in a wheelchair.  As she got into her car Jesus placed the thought in her head, โ€œGo give him one of your โ€˜blessings bags.โ€™โ€  Her church provides these bags to hand out to anyone in need.  She had never just walked up to someone and given them a bag. 

But that day she pulled out of her parking spot and drove over to the man.  He was struggling trying to get his wheelchair closed up so he could lie down on the same spot.  As she approached the man, she could tell he was drunk.  But she kept moving forward.  She inquired, โ€œDo you need some help?โ€  And he said he did.  She helped him get situated and then offered a blessings bag, which he readily accepted.  As she left she acknowledged to herself that she wouldnโ€™t have taken that action previously โ€“ some other force pressed her forward.

You see, Betsy has been a loving Christian for 60 some years.  She has always served her church and family well.  Recently she has been working on the โ€œobeying Godโ€ part of her faith progression.  Listening for His voice and taking action to be His humble servant.  God has told her itโ€™s time to move forward.


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She Loves Like Jesus

โ€œGreater love has no one than this: to lay down oneโ€™s life for oneโ€™s friends.โ€ John 15:13

Jesus sees you. The first lesson of this miracle is a welcome one. You and I arenโ€™t invisible. We arenโ€™t overlooked. Jesus spots us on the side of the road, and he makes the first move.

Max Lucado

There are three women in my life that I count has having a significant influence on me.  Two of the three will probably never know me.  Thatโ€™s the power of having an outlet to reach millions of people either through the radio, books, television, etc.  My long commutes as a young working woman were filled with life wisdom dished out with a borderline harshness by Dr. Laura.  She made sense to me and helped me to see different perspectives in relationships both personally and professionally.  Later, my faith life received a much needed injection of Godโ€™s truth from the formidable Joyce Meyer.  Her devotional, โ€œPower Thoughts,โ€ was Dr. Laura on faith steroids.  But again, these two women and I will probably never cross paths.

The third woman God placed in my path couldnโ€™t be more opposite in personality than the other two.  She and Jesus share a beautiful character trait.  They love all.  They have compassion for all.  They know just what someone needs at their darkest hour.  When Jesus was asked how the masses would be fed, He stepped up to the plate.  And so does my mother-in-law, Bev Shetter.

When I first would visit Bev in her hometown of Longmont, Colorado about 30 years ago, I would find myself frequently annoyed.  You see, like people surrounding Jesus on His way to an officialโ€™s home, Bev couldnโ€™t get through one aisle at the local grocer without multiple people approaching her.  A quick trip for a loaf of bread turned into an hour.  

This was so foreign to me.  How could one person, not only know so many people, but know so many people so well?   She wasnโ€™t some famous tv personality.  She didnโ€™t write a book.  She didnโ€™t operate the local bakery, or any business for that manner.  She wasnโ€™t even head of any organization.  She was a housewife who occasionally worked part time at a flower shop here or a dress shop there.  And, a faithful member of her church.

She knows everyoneโ€™s name, their childrenโ€™s names, their parentโ€™s names.  She knows who is sick and injured.  She can share a joke with old and young.  She lets people know sheโ€™s praying for them regularly.  And at the end of a โ€œshortโ€ trip for a few groceries I felt a bit like Peter, annoyed that we might be late for our next engagement because Bev needed to say yet another kind โ€œhelloโ€ to an elderly woman.

She makes you feel loved, special, remembered. 

โ€œItโ€™s funny how God leads us to just the right person to guide us through life. Bev has been that trusted loving spiritual friend to me for some 40 years. She has modeled the commandment of Jesus to love one another putting into action all the teachings of Jesus. We have shared laughter, faith, tears, fears, and all that life gives us and I am so grateful to her for walking beside me and revealing Jesus to me.โ€  

Longtime friend, Jane Nelson

Jesus did that.  You knew you were in the presence of someone special because He made you feel special.  The disciples knew that when Jesus said, โ€œFollow meโ€ they would be well-loved.  They would be remembered.  He wasnโ€™t famous when He first called His disciples.  He was an unknown.  Not a rich businessman or even mildly successful tradesman.  Yet He made sure to make people feel known and loved.

 โ€œI pray for them.  I am not praying for the world, but for those you have given me, for they are yours.โ€ John 17:9

Even in His last physical days on Earth He remembered His friends.  Not just the disciples.  Youโ€™ll notice in the verse above He is praying for everyone that the Father sent to Him โ€“ thatโ€™s you, me, Peter, John, the tax collectors, the adulterers, the gentile and the Jew.  Everyone who has turned their lives over to Him.

When I committed myself to my husband, I was given the gift of moving into Bevโ€™s large friendship circle.  It wasnโ€™t easy at first.  We are also opposite in personality.  I was angry, unsettled, untethered to God.  I welcomed outrage in my life, judged harshly and forgave reluctantly.  But the thing about Jesus is when He steps into a relationship with a Saul He transforms the Saul into a Paul.  And when someone like a Bev enters your life, you canโ€™t help but come out changed.

And so I watched and listened.  I saw the peace she had in her life that I did not.  I watched her minister to the homeless, the shut in, the sick, the needy, the hurt, the lonely.  I listened to her words of compassion and quiet, unassuming advice to her friends.  She opens her home to visiting missionaries, childhood friends, family and anyone else that needs a pillow to rest their head.  And I said, โ€œI want some of that.โ€

Isnโ€™t that what we do when listen to Jesus talk to a hurting person?  โ€œI want to be able to love like that.โ€  Isnโ€™t that what we pray for when we watch Jesus stop and pay attention to one person on the street whom nobody sees?  โ€œI should stop and help them.โ€  Isnโ€™t that what we long for when Jesus tells us He will never leave us? โ€œI want to be loved and be remembered.โ€

“My grandma doesnโ€™t wait around for approval, compliments or appreciation.  She has a keen eye for what people need before they may even know it themselves.  She is one to show up with a warm meal before your stomach starts to growl or a blanket before you start to shiver. 

Granddaughter, Haley Shetter

Jesus and people like Bev show us how to love and be loved.  They show us how to be the faithful and loving friend.  They arenโ€™t looking for 10,000 โ€œlikesโ€ on Facebook.  They stop in the grocery aisle and say, โ€œHello, friend, how is your mom feeling today?โ€  They give their time and prayers one person at a time.  And from that, Jesus and Bev have gained a multitude of loving and faithful friends.

“My sister Bev cared for my blessed mother for many years.  Her dedication in honoring God through love and service is selfless and enduring.  Many times her faith has been tested but never paled.”

Sister, Kathy Pisano

The people like Bev, who live out this Jesus character trait so well, donโ€™t work hard to make friends.  They donโ€™t work hard at keeping friends.  They work hard at loving people.  They look for ways to show compassion.  They know that even doing their little part will mean something for somebody.  People like Bev are remembered wherever they go, because the people they touch feel something special.

“From her I have learned to watch and listen to her ways.  This is not something you develop overnight but attributes you gain over time.  She surrounds herself with people who also have these qualities so they can act as a tribe, a community, to build and share their love.”  

Granddaughter, Haley Shetter

Bev and her “tribe” are truly special followers of Jesusโ€™ command to love one another and be faithful to others.  Iโ€™m a living example of someone who can learn to imitate Bev and Jesus.  I may never achieve the level of her success but God knows my efforts.  

Itโ€™s important for us that arenโ€™t more naturally inclined to be like her to know that Jesus still expects us to work at it.  I wonโ€™t be Bev2.0 but with her example and the guidance of Jesus I can be transformed into someone new.  

Bev (front left) with a few members of her “Tribe”

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A Tap on The Shoulder

I have a good friend who has been a Christian for much of her life.  Sheโ€™s now in her 60โ€™s.  Itโ€™s been fascinating watching her in her faith progression.  For years she sat solidly in the knowledge that Jesus died for her sins.  She knew that God loved her.  She can quote many Bible verses, she taught Sunday school, and has an active Bible study life.  But it was only in the last year that she has firmly grasped the lesson of being a loving and faithful friend to the unlovable.  She was led to finally forgive a family member.  To show that person love and kindness.  And what she discovered was the other places in her heart that were holding out on Godโ€™s love for others.  Jesus has put out His hand to her and said, โ€œItโ€™s time to move forward.โ€

โ€œWe love because he first loved us.โ€ 1 John 4:19

When I listen in to a Pastor Max Lucado podcast I find myself in the presence of a man who exudes Godโ€™s love.  His voice alone invites us to sit with him by the fire.  He then gently walks us through the Words of Jesus expressing Godโ€™s immense, unwavering love for us.  It is truly a gift God has given him.  

You and I long for Someone who will meet us in the midst of lifeโ€™s messes. We long to believe in a living, loving, miracle-working God who wonโ€™t think twice about stepping into the thorny thickets of our world and lifting us out.  I have an encouraging word: you are not alone.  

Max Lucado, “You Are Never Alone”

This message of Godโ€™s love for us and His faithfulness is not a small thing to accept.  And Jesusโ€™ command โ€“ yes command โ€“ for us to open those gifts and use them cannot be leapfrogged.  Without honing and living out being a loving and faithful friend to Godโ€™s people the rest of the message is rarely listened to and accepted.  When the Truth of God is wrapped tightly in love we will find ourselves ready to be Godโ€™s hands and feet.

โ€œDuring our first birth we relied on our mother and the doctors to do the work.  We were loved and carefully cared for.  In our second birth we rely on the loving God to care for us — to help create a new heart and mind for us.โ€  

Max Lucado

Have you practiced and perfected the Loving and Faithful Friend mindset?  Or are you still stuck in the unbelief that Jesus fully loves you โ€“ not realizing your chains are broken?  Are you trapped in a world of unforgiveness, judgment, or anger towards people around you or the circumstances in the world?  Ask God to reveal to you any hidden places in your heart that keep you from fully living like the loving Jesus. 

I’ll be perfectly honest and say that at the ripe age of 56 I still struggle with anger and resentment. I once told a group of Bible study friends I wanted to be more “sparkly.” You know, that woman that seems like she’s living her best life — seemingly floating above life’s strife. Everything not only rolls off the “sparkly” woman’s shoulders but she also dives deep into joyous moments. When my prayer life finally included this plea to God He showed me how my lack of Jesus-type love for others was the chain holding me back.

For some of us that “sparkly” life is easier to achieve. For others our well-honed training from our past and the perils of our everyday environment make it more difficult. And that’s when Jesus fills the gap between what we are able to accomplish and what we cannot. When we encounter difficult people or circumstances, it’s Jesus’ love — for us and others — that is the bridge.

"By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another."  John 13:35

Iโ€™m glad Iโ€™ve had the opportunity to re-visit Pastor Lucadoโ€™s teachings about love.  He reminded me not only that I am deeply loved but God expects me to love the “unlovable” in my life. I encourage you to pick up any of his books or tune into his podcast, Encouraging Word.  We all can use the reminders of Godโ€™s love for us and how to gift that to others.  For most of us we need to be in constant training. Practicing, failing, and practicing again. When we fail we need to make note of how to do it better next time, pray for forgiveness, and ask God to tap us on the shoulder when the time comes to do it again.

I know the old “what would Jesus do” saying has gotten a bit worn out but the question still is powerful. There is no other, more powerful, more consistent touchstone for our lives than Jesus. When I pray for God’s strength, guidance, and wisdom I frequently ask for Him give me that shoulder tap when I’m about to go astray. To interrupt what is about to be my “typical” response to a person or situation and instead turn my head slightly toward Jesus as a reminder.

"And walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave Himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God." Ephesians 5:2

You’ll notice throughout Jesus’ words and the New Testament it’s not enough to have the absence of dislike, rudeness, unforgiveness, etc. He offered Himself up as a fragrant offering. He brought something to God. We are to bring something of ourselves into our relationships with the people of the world.

There are days that I have only been able to accomplish the “lack” of something bad. And when I do that, I feel incomplete. I lay my head down at night knowing I didn’t run the race well — I just made it around the track. And so I ask Jesus to help me do it as He would the next time. He always says, “I will.”

Jesus always loves us. And He is always with us ready to tap our shoulder. As Pastor Lucado says, “You are never alone.” He is our constant example to look toward. And in my next post youโ€™ll meet an ordinary woman who lives out Jesus’ mindset of being a loving and faithful friend, making her extraordinary to all who meet her.


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Our Faith Progression

We, therefore, desire to copy his character and put our feet into his footprints. Be it ours to follow the Lamb whithersoever he goeth. What saith our Lord himself? โ€œFollow me,โ€ and again, โ€œTake my yoke upon you and learn of me, for I am meek and lowly in heart, and ye shall find rest unto your souls.โ€ Not Christโ€™s apostle, but Christ himself, is our guide; we may not take a secondary model, but must imitate Jesus himself. 

Charles Spurgeon
 โ€œI am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing." John 15:5

Many years ago, I had the benefit of listening to a sermon series on our progression as a disciple of Christ.  I have heard many pastors say thereโ€™s too many of us Christians who seem stuck at the beginning of that progression and arenโ€™t fully living the life Christ wants for us.

It may even come as a surprise to some that there is an expected โ€œprogressionโ€ in our faith lives.  We assumed that once we accepted Jesus as our Savior weโ€™re done.  We are able to check off that box on the questionnaire asking what our faith is: Christian.  

"But we have the mind of Christ." 1 Corinthians 2:16

We all have probably heard the above verse a few times in our Christian lives.  But reading the entire chapter reveals something even more.  The progression.  

"When I came to you, I did not come with eloquence or human wisdom as I proclaimed to you the testimony about God. For I resolved to know nothing while I was with you except Jesus Christ and him crucified. I came to you in weakness with great fear and trembling. My message and my preaching were not with wise and persuasive words, but with a demonstration of the Spiritโ€™s power, so that your faith might not rest on human wisdom, but on Godโ€™s power." 1 Corinthians 2:1-5

The apostle Paul himself explains that when he first came to the people of Corinth He came with the first step in the progression โ€“ the message of Jesusโ€™ love for us.  That He died for us.  He rose again for us.  Paul goes on to say:

"We do, however, speak a message of wisdom among the mature." 1 Corinthians 2:6

The mature.  Who among your faith group would you deem โ€œmatureโ€ in their faith?  Who among them would you deem a โ€œbaby Christian?โ€ And where do you count yourself?  This is not asked in judgment.  All who are saved are equally loved by God.  But you can probably tell the difference between people who are further along in their faith progression and those that arenโ€™t.  And it has nothing to do with age.  The sign of a maturing Christian is that theyโ€™ve received the gift and have actually opened the box and are using it.

So what is this progression? In the sermon series I mentioned, these steps were defined as: 

  1. Believer โ€“ Mark 9:23 
  2. Follower โ€“ Luke 9:23
  3. Apprentice โ€“ Ephesians 4:14 
  4. Learner โ€“ Philippians 4:9

Jesus Himself shows us this progression as He lived out those three world-changing years. 

  • Step 1) The Loving and Faithful Friendย 
  • Step 2) The Obedient Servant
  • Step 3) The Courageous Warrior
  • Step 4) The Patient Teacher
  • Step 5) The Wise Counselor

Throughout this series, the Jesus Mindset, we will meet people โ€“ some famous and some very ordinary– who exemplify the different steps in the faith journey. And it is only correct to start with the first step.  Lest we think we have step one down pat I should warn you that so many Christians remain in step one because of the difficult truths and expectations presented.  It is the message we hear over and over in our churches.  It is the first and the last message Christ has for us, which makes it the most important of all.  

โ€œAs the Father loved me, so have I loved you.  Now remain in my love.โ€ John 15:9

When I was researching various pastors who make love and friendship a cornerstone of their message I realized I had an old friend already in my midst waiting to talk to me again.  As I perused through my Christian books I stopped on, โ€œHow Happiness Happens,โ€ by Max Lucado.

Pastor Lucado probably needs no introduction.  He is an internationally known pastor, author, speaker and more.  Heโ€™s written too many books and articles to count.  And the theme throughout is love. How to accept Christโ€™s love.  And how to show love not just to our friends but to complete strangers.  He reminds us that Jesus is our loving and faithful friend and wants us to model that character trait to everyone we meet.  When you read about Pastor Lucado you see his lifelong mission is to set solidly in our hearts the message of Godโ€™s love for us.  He shows us how to translate that great gift to others.

โ€œIโ€™m a pastor. I can sit down with somebody who has a broken heart and love them and encourage them and remind them of how God cares. But I struggle when I look at a budget. Or I struggle when somebody says, โ€˜Well, whatโ€™s the long-term strategy for our church?โ€™ Well, I donโ€™t know. I guess weโ€™ll see. Letโ€™s love God, preach Jesus, and pray.โ€

Max Lucado on his leadership style

So much of what Pastor Lucado speaks of seems simple.  And yet, I find myself day in and day out forgetting to live out the simple messages. 

โ€œGreet one another for your sake.  Experience the joy of showing people they matter.  Greet each other for their sake. What is small to you may be huge to them.  Most of all greet each other for Jesusโ€™ sake.โ€

Max Lucado, “How Happiness Happens”

How often do we go through an entire day and find ourselves never having truly connected with another human being?

โ€œListen intently and praise abundantly.โ€

Max Lucado, “How Happiness Happens”

Isnโ€™t that what Jesus did throughout His ministry? You can only imagine how the woman at the well in John 4:1-26 felt when Jesus was with her.  He wasnโ€™t looking over her shoulder at a bird or cute dog while she spoke.  He wasnโ€™t thinking about the next town He was to visit or His next meal.  He saw her.  He listened to her.  He loved her even when she pushed Him away.

Itโ€™s definitely easier to live out the Jesus Mindset of being a loving and faithful friend with people we choose to be around.  We pick our friends and we even pick who in our family we spend more time with.  We are deliberate with whom we ask to go to lunch at work.  But Jesus loved the unlovable.  He touched the untouchable.  

โ€œYou wonder why God doesnโ€™t remove the enemies in your life? Perhaps because he wants you to love like he loves. Anyone can love a friend, but only a few can love an enemy.โ€

Max Lucado

Isnโ€™t this where so many of us get stuck?  We count ourselves, โ€œgood peopleโ€ or โ€œgood Christiansโ€ and yet we harbor, at best unforgiveness, and at worst hatred for people.  

I grew up in a household where unforgiveness and hatred ran deep.  I had a parent who judged harshly and never forgave. People and places got etched into stone on โ€œThe List.โ€  That was my touchstone, my guidebook.  So when I started hearing the message of Godโ€™s love, faithfulness and forgiveness it was difficult to accept.  The first step was to believe God felt that way toward me.  And to be honest, I find myself frequently falling backward into not returning those gifts to others.  

The lessons and examples from Pastor Lucado are great every day reminders on living out Jesusโ€™ request of us to love one another.

โ€œGod is loveโ€ (1 John 4:16). One word into the passage reveals the supreme surprise of Godโ€™s loveโ€”it has nothing to do with you. Some people love you because of you. Not God โ€“ He loves you because He is He.  

Max Lucado

Isn’t that amazing? Wouldn’t you agree that most of the people in your life love you because of who you are to them? A daughter or son, a wife or husband, a longtime friend with similar interests, and so on. We may even find ourselves saying we love a person who is related to us but we don’t like them very much. It’s all conditional. But God loves us because He is love. Let’s not just gloss over that. Take a moment to really let it sink in. He is the definition of love. Like a cloud of love envelopes us and snuggles us wherever we go!

I saw a picture the other day of a woman at the store who had created a contraption designed to keep people six feet away from her. It involved a hula hoop, straps, signs, warning reflectors and more. When I saw this I thought, “that’s the exact opposite message of Jesus.” His cloud of love surrounding us is more like a fog bank — it pulls others in and seeps into everything. It quiets the world around us.

Today, when you go out into the world, picture your God cloud swirling around you. It’s beautiful and inviting. Its little tendrils reach out and wrap around others you meet. Invite them in with a smile, a greeting, a shrug of forgiveness. With each act of love we a do a bit of cloud seeding — leaving a piece of Jesus to grow.


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Jesus Mindset

“But we have the mind of Christ” 1 Corinthians 2:16

We so often hear the phrase, โ€œTo be like Jesusโ€ but what does it really mean in our everyday lives?  My BSGs were in a deep conversation on Revelation about whether or not we believe in the rapture.  And, more importantly how does either position effect our lives.  History and our current world are full of scholars who know a lot more about the details of the Bible than probably you or I will ever grasp.  But thereโ€™s a difference, which is a deep and wide crevasse, between knowing and living out the qualities of Jesus.

โ€œWe, therefore, desire to copy his character and put our feet into his footprints. Be it ours to follow the Lamb whithersoever he goes. What says our Lord himself? โ€œFollow me,โ€ and again, โ€œTake my yoke upon you and learn of me, for I am meek and lowly in heart, and you shall find rest unto your souls.โ€ Not Christโ€™s apostle, but Christ himself, is our guide; we may not take a secondary model, but must imitate Jesus himself.โ€ 

Charles Spurgeon

Imitation is not knowing of something but molding ourselves into an almost exact copy.  I say โ€œalmostโ€ because of course, Jesus is God and we are not.  We walk the Jesus drawn path toward His perfection but we are always in a human mode my friend Betsy calls, โ€œimperfect progress.โ€ 

Our modern view of Jesus seems to be stuck in one quality, however.  And truth be told, if we could regularly live out that one quality itโ€™d be a great step forward on our path.  That quality?  A loving friend.  

We hear the word โ€œloveโ€ over and over in our churches, in our faith songs, on our Christian social media.  But what about Jesusโ€™ other characteristics?  How many of us are willing to take on being Jesus the Warrior, Jesus the Servant, or Jesus the Counselor?  If we have hesitated is it because we know that once we decide to move along in our sanctification journey, we will encounter more and more resistance from the outside world?

Are we prepared, like the disciple Stephen, to be a martyr for God?  Are we prepared to state unequivocally that we must obey God rather than human beings? (Acts 5:29)

And so, we return to the original question, what does believing in the words of the Bible and Jesus mean to our lives?  It means we are to be in constant preparation for His coming.  It means we love our neighbors, we share the gospel whenever possible, we humble ourselves, we seek reconciliation and not revenge, we encourage and lift up our fellow travelers, we carry the message of Jesus throughout every generation, and we stand up for the truth of His Holy Word.  It means we make a perspective shift on every single aspect of our lives because we believe that one day soon our โ€œage of graceโ€ will turn to the โ€œage of judgment.โ€  

Jesus expects us to be working on that preparation. Itโ€™s why He came โ€“ not to just leave us knowing God loves us โ€“ but living like God knows and loves us.  He came to be our example for gathering up residents of the future Kingdom come. 

Join me in this journey of looking at the different qualities of Jesus as we delve into His mindset so that we can become His imitators.  We will be challenged to accept all of His qualities, not just the ones with which we feel most comfortable.  Along the way we will meet some people whose lives are examples of those characteristics. 

Jesus was a great disrupter โ€“ possibly the greatest of all time.  Letโ€™s let Him disrupt and reshape us.


As we begin this series take a moment to pray this confession found in Rick Rennerโ€™s, Sparkling Gems from the Greek:

โ€œI boldly declare that I am a new creature in Christ.  Old things have passed away and all things have become new!  I am not who I used to be anymore.  I donโ€™t think like that old person; I donโ€™t see like that old person; I donโ€™t talk like that old person; and I donโ€™t behave like that old person anymore.  Now I am in Jesus Christ, and I think like Him, see like Him, talk like Him, and behave like Him.  I have come alive with vibrant life because of His resurrection power that works in me! I declare this by faith in Jesusโ€™ name!โ€

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Rinse & Repeat

โ€œTherefore keep watch, because you do not know on what day your Lord will come. 43 But understand this: If the owner of the house had known at what time of night the thief was coming, he would have kept watch and would not have let his house be broken into. 44 So you also must be ready, because the Son of Man will come at an hour when you do not expect him.โ€ Matthew 24:42-44

If you are a parent, or even a supervisor of others at work, you can relate so well to Jesus already.  You work day in and day out to show those who look to you for guidance how to live, work and even play.  Through your love, your willingness to give up other things to serve them, your confidence, counseling and teaching you hope all that you share sinks in deeply.

And then you turn your back for a minute.  

I was listening to the Talk It Out podcast the other day.  Itโ€™s three friends who discuss the teachings of Joyce Meyer.  This particular episode found them doing their first Covid-19 distanced podcast.  One of the women shared how the day prior, when they were practicing how the podcast would actually work, she set up her two kids in the bedroom with snacks and a movie.  She then went to another room for privacy.  Everything was perfect.  The kids had what they needed and were properly admonished.  

Partway through the run-through her daughter interrupted the proceedings.  As the mom turned to see what caused the interruption all she saw was a massacre.  At least thatโ€™s what it appeared to be.  Her young daughter had somehow gotten a hold of red nail polish and had painted her entire feet and hands.  And the white bedspread.

When asking her slightly older son what happened he replied unabashedly, โ€œI dunno, she needed me to open it so I did.โ€

Jesus spent three intense years teaching, showing, guiding and yet even His closest disciples struggled to model Him.  And we sit here about 2,000 years later, with our red nail polish spilled all over our guidebook.  Oops.  

The thing about the red nail polish on the sheets is it never completely comes out.  It leaves a pink stain, as the mom found out.  She sat night after night staring at it.  But thankfully, each time we fail to live up to the lessons of Jesus we can come with our stained hands and hearts and ask for forgiveness.  We are washed white as snow.

We need to get up off our knees and try it again.ย ย We turn to Him and say, โ€œshow me, teach me.โ€ Because He will come back into the room with us to see how well we have lived out His example.

Join me for my next series, โ€œJesus Mindset,โ€ where we break down the different characteristics of Jesus and how we can live them out.ย ย We will all get them wrong at different points but God always holds out his hand to lift us up and dust us off.