We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. 2 Corinthians 10:5
I love watching the British tv show Midsommer Murders. I’m a detective fan since my young girl days of hiding my Nancy Drew books inside my school desk and sneaking it out when the teacher wasn’t looking. I pay extra on my Amazon Prime account to get these shows. Recently however, they’ve added commercials – dropped in at odd places in the show. One such commercial keeps popping up, show after show, day after day. It’s for Midol, the pain reducer typically suggested to relieve cramping and pains due to menstruation.
The commercials themselves are a testament to where we are at in society. You see, each of the women are portrayed as victims. Not necessarily of having a period but of having to deal with the pain and therefore their related behavior. I call them the Midol Women. One actress states, “If I don’t stop apologizing for my period behavior (apparently she’s quite a bear during this time) then it’ll never stop for future generations.” Another states, “I’m not going to keep apologizing for being a ‘mad black woman’ just because I’m on my period.” Period.
The message conveyed is “whatever I’m feeling today the world had better watch out!” And, “don’t make me apologize for what I’m about to unleash!”
Isn’t that the loud and clear message we hear so much today? I’m not required to keep my mouth in check because (fill in the blank – my truth, my pain, my socioeconomic status, my race, my sexuality, my whatever) but YOU had better keep your mouth in check. It all creates a bit of a neck whiplash. And the result? Pain, hurt feelings, swelling pridefulness, torn relationships, violence and more.
James 3:10-11 says, “Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be. Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring?
When it’s a Christian acting in this way we get the giant stamp of “hypocrite” placed on, not only us as individuals, but the faith as a whole. It’d be better to live by the wisdom of the Proverbs.
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11
This concept has really hit home for me these past few months as I’ve battled constant pain in my ears and head. I want to lash out at my husband at the end of the day when he’s being, well, just a man. Normally I could laugh and tease him. But it takes all the strength and patience out of me each day to not give in to the pain. So when someone close to me does something annoying, my strength needs to come from somewhere else. Because my tank is empty.
I don’t want to ruin a beautiful weekend by constantly gripping about how I feel. I may always feel this way if my doctors can’t figure out what’s wrong. So I have to ask myself, do I want to be the Midol Woman and demand that everyone around me accept my emotional bombs? Or do I draw on the strength of God which the apostle Paul wrote when he spoke of his constant thorn in his side (2 Cor 12:7-10)?
Believe me, I want to be cured. And I don’t like that women must suffer during their periods. I hate that people, like my mother in law, have to deal with the effects of chemotherapy. Migraines, back pain, knee pain, the list goes on and on. When we lose sight of who we belong to and what is expected of us we fall prey to being the Midol Woman. We lose control of our tongue and its ability to “set great forests on fire by a small spark.” (James 3:5)
Dear Christian, we are held to a higher standard than the Midol Women of this world. And yes, it is okay to be weak and cry. It’s okay to lose our cool once in a while and have a bad day. But to say we shouldn’t apologize for lashing out in those weak times is of the flesh and we are called to be better. God expects us to be better, and most of all to be humble. The world says it’s ok to rant, rave, slam doors, curse others – as long as it doesn’t happen to you. God says, “Come to me all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest.” (Matt 11:28)
It’s at our weakest times that our decision to be resolute in our faith is tested. Not on the good days, not on the days our pain is masked, not on the sun shining days. No, throughout the Bible we see we are almost sure to be tested on the bad days, the days we want to stay in bed, the days it takes a full tank and we are living on just a quarter. It’s those days that when people say to me, “God is just a crutch” that I say, “Great, give me two.”