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Enjoying The Surrender

Part One of our look at Ecclesiastes Two


A friend of mine recently surrendered a bitter, past hurt over to the Lord.  She started with obedience, albeit reluctantly she admits.  The pain caused by her last church has been difficult to overcome.  She told me she’s been praying one of the best prayers you could ever pray: “Help me imitate Jesus.”  As part of a study about revival we’ve been doing she’s also spent a lot more time just listening for God’s Word.  Not asking, pleading, telling, or even praising.  Just listening.  And He has spoken.

You see my friend used to love teaching children the Word of God.  At her old church she was deeply involved in children’s ministry.  After a tumultuous pastor change and the subsequent wrangling for top dog positions within the church, a few staff members were laid off without warning.  She was one of them.  She had given her whole heart over to the ministry and felt betrayed.  It caused her to pronounce she would never work in children’s ministry again, ever.  

And then in January we opened Pastor Robby Gallaty’s study on revival titled, Revive Us.  He encouraged us to spend time with God starting with just five minutes of quiet time.  We soon worked our way up to 15, then 20 and finally 30 minutes.  Over the course of the next two months, we shared what God showed us.  A word here and there, a vision of being loved, a message of strength, a picture of His majesty.  

For my friend?  After praying yet again on how to imitate Jesus, she found herself in her quiet time with a vision of a beach scene.  A man teaching little children at the edge of the sea.  Love abounded from child to teacher and teacher to child.  The teacher turned and looked at her and smiled.  It was Jesus.  She was overcome with tears; real tears streaming down her face in realization that to imitate Jesus would be to do the one thing she had refused.  To do the one thing she knew God had gifted her.  To teach the children.

So, although she had obeyed the week prior and told her new church she would dip a toe in to Sunday school the next week by “observing” she said it with trepidation.  That vision, given to her the day before she was to serve, filled her with love and joy.  When she walked into the children’s ministry department the administrator was so happy to see her – they were short leaders in Kindergarten.  “Would she take on the class?” she was asked.  Without any hesitation my friend agreed.  You should have heard the joy in her voice when she told us how she was immediately loved by the children, how she danced and sang, how she was filled with the Holy Spirit.  How she was healed!

Juxtapose my friend’s experience at Sunday School with King Solomon in chapter 2.  The richest man in the world at the time.  He had everything at his fingertips.  He built palace after palace.  He made large parks and orchards.  He had plenty of female slaves to do his every (and I mean every) bidding.  He had singers, dancers, gold, silver, food, drink – all the delights of a man’s heart (Ecc 2:8).  And he was miserable.  He was seeking meaning and purpose.  He tried buying it and building it and owning it.

The abundant life is to be found in “treasuring up for God” rather than for self.”

Kenneth Bailey, Jesus through Middle Eastern Eyes

What did my friend have?  A humble servant heart, slightly broken and needing mending.  She didn’t seek to enrich her life.  She asked to serve the One True God, Jesus Christ.  So, He gave her 10 little, beautiful faces that Sunday.  Little children who were eager to be her new friend and to mend her heart.


I read once that we should look at ourselves as channels not reservoirs of joy.  Meaning we don’t store up all the blessing for ourselves but rather send them on to others.  Pastor Gallaty reminded us of this truth.  Through intercessory prayer and acts of service we become those channels.

If revival coming to your family or community depended on your prayers, would it come?”  

Pastor Robby Gallaty

When our prayer life and subsequent actions serve only to enrich ourselves, we find our situation mirroring Solomon’s.  Striving and chasing wealth, status, knowledge and even wisdom – with God as a supplemental figure or not thought of at all, really.  When our seeking pleasure or even “peace” is above all else we miss the beautiful work of God He wants to do in our life.  

My pastor recently asked us if we are committing our lives to God or surrendering them.  What’s the difference you might ask?  I’m glad you asked! Join me for my next post Enjoying the Surrender Part Two! Click here.

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Enjoy The Ever-Changing Sameness


We took a chance that night.  My husband wanted to go to the coast, about 20 minutes away, to capture the sunset with his newly revived photography interest.  The weather app said cloudy without even a chance of sunlight.  Being free of any other obligations, we decided to go anyway.  We might not catch a glorious sunset but standing high on the cliffs above Torrey Pines State Beach is never without its own beauty.  Just watching the waves take their turns kissing the beach, people and dog watching, silently encouraging each surfer as they paddle furiously to catch one more wave before the light is gone, peering with hope to see a dolphin or even a whale spout – it’s all the draw of standing at the edge of the sea.

We hopped on our Vespa scooters (realizing too late we weren’t dressed for the chilly air!) and wound our way to the coast.  The “parking gods” were with us and we found a place to park with the beachside cliffs just over the short berm.  At first the sky was just as the weather app had predicted – slightly gloomy.  For some reason we kept watch.  

Off on the distant horizon a glimmer of gold began to break through the greyness.  Minute by minute a tear in the clouds began to emerge.  The scene soon revealed a fiery, heavenly furnace with bright golds, oranges and red bursting through the clouds.  As the sun continued its nightly, predictable path to the west, soft pink and blue cotton candy-like clouds joined the canvas.  At one point the sun itself made an entrance in blinding suddenness.  Its rays glowed across the surface of the sea.  As it lowered further and further toward distant lands, the furnace became a gentle glow of a dying campfire.  My eyes drawn into the soft light of God’s glory on full display.  

Soon the torn sky began to heal with clouds marching together to close the scene.  And those of us standing there wanting to squeeze every ounce of beauty out of what was before us looked around and finally breathed.  

It seems easy to enjoy life when surrounded by such beauty set before us.  An hour of admiring the ending of another day.  Yet, how often do we get caught up in what King Solomon repeats throughout his study of life in Ecclesiastes, “the meaningless life?”  We wake up each morning with our to-do list firmly planted at the front of our mind.  We trudge through our morning routine and either go off to work or begin our work at home.  We stop for lunch then pick it all up again.  Dinner time, tv, reading, our evening routine, and then to bed.  It’s the life Solomon laments in its “routineness.” He asks what is the point of our toil (Ecc 1:3)?  The sun rises and sets and nothing ever changes.  It’s meaningless.

Now I warn you.  The book of Ecclesiastes has its pitfalls just as the Book of Job.  There’s danger in opening either book and grabbing a piece of scripture to represent the whole message.  It’s why I avoided quoting Job in any post for a long time.  And the first few chapters of Ecclesiastes could be used in destructive ways.  But I’m going to give you the spoiler – life is meaningless, unless you have God as your Lord.  We will toil for selfish or pointless reasons.  We will lose or not ever have any hope.  We will feel like prisoners.  We might even see God as evil or unloving.  We lose sight of how beautifully made this cyclical world really is.

King Solomon was gifted by God to be one of the wisest men ever to exist.  But I find myself challenging him straight away when he says, “Is there anything of which one can say, ‘Look!  This is something new’?  It was here already, long ago; it was here before our time.” (Ecc 1:10)

Why do I disagree to some degree with that statement?  Because God is the god that bursts into our lives and upsets the world from time to time.  There once was nothing and He created something magnificent!  There was a time the sun didn’t rise or set.  A time were there weren’t any seasons.  God then gave us constants like knowing the sun will rise in the east and set in the west, every. single. day. of our human existence.  

But then He goes and puts His finger to the artist’s canvas again for that unique sunset, the duplicate of which will never be seen again.  The giant oak tree in front of my daughter’s house will bloom this spring again and produce giant leaves.  In the fall the leaves will change color and fall to the ground.  The cycle goes round and round.  But each new leaf will never look exactly like another.  The fall color change pattern will never be repeated exactly the same.  

And you, when you were formed in your mother’s womb, may look like your parents, you may have some of their mannerisms, you may have similar beliefs about the world.  You generally look like everyone else and your body performs pretty much like everyone else’s.  But you, you will never be repeated.  His artist’s finger has touched you and made you beautiful.  Yes, you.  You with the aches and pains.  You with the slightly longer left leg than right.  You with the hair you always wish were the opposite.  You with that funny freckle right there. 

In the infinite wisdom of the Lord of all the earth, each event falls with exact precision into its proper place in the unfolding of His divine plan. Nothing, however small, however strange, occurs without His ordering, or without its particular fitness for its place in the working out of His purpose; and the end of all shall be the manifestation of His glory, and the accumulation of His praise.

B.B. Warfield

In His omniscient wisdom He gave us constancy and variety all at once.  We can thank Him for both.  He gives us blessings and trials – all so we can give Him glory for His hand at work.  It’s not meaningless monotony God created but a sturdy white canvas ready for something new each day.

Friend, like I said, it is easy to take an hour and enjoy a sunset.  But let me finish the story of our trip to catch the sun on its nightly, guaranteed journey.  You see, the city where we chose to park is very strict with their parking.  We rolled up our little Vespas to the perfect spots and decided not to walk the half block to pay for parking passes (I think it’s their evil plan to spread the meter machines so far apart).  After watching God’s performance, we hiked back to our rides.  And yes, each had a $50 parking ticket.  Did we let it ruin what we had just witnessed?  No, we knew we had willfully disobeyed the set rules. Instead of getting angry I said, “Well, we stayed home for our date night this week so we can just look at this as our date night.  A bottle of wine and a nice meal would’ve cost us just as much!”  I shocked myself realizing the work God has done in me.  How He has changed this typical, average woman into one that gives Him the glory.  I enjoyed the lesson and message He set before me – follow the rules and don’t be lazy.


This year the Lord has put upon my heart to “ENJOY.”  Not just seek joy, but as a friend noticed, to take action.  Enjoy is a verb, not a feeling.  When I researched “enjoy” in the Bible, I found it repeated throughout the book of Ecclesiastes.  So, for the past few months I’ve been reading, researching, noodling and most of all praying.  And here we are with the new series, “Enjoy Life — From meaningless to meaningful.”  I’ll be posting a least once a week for the next few weeks.  To be honest, the Holy Spirit and I haven’t worked out the full length of this series.  

I want to leave you today, however with this piece of scripture and a quote by Warren Wiersbe to encourage you to enjoy today, enjoy this hour, enjoy the sameness and the fact that you will never have another day quite like today.  Enjoy not only the good, but the bad and sometimes ugly.  Because the Lord is always with you.  He can always be found touching your life.  When we believe that, we can see Him making all things work for those who love Him.  Without Him, everything will seem so meaningless.

“Since early dawn, that bird has done nothing but try to survive.  He’s been wearing himself out hiding from enemies and looking for food for himself and his little ones.  And yet, when he gets to the end of the day, he sings about it.”  

Warren Wiersbe

Enjoy.

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Enjoy Life: From Meaningless to Meaningful


Ecclesiastes 1 begins in a tale of hopelessness: “Meaningless! Meaningless!” says the Teacher.  “Utterly meaningless!  Everything is meaningless.”  A strange beginning of my journey this year into taking to heart God’s word for me to “Enjoy” wouldn’t you say?  After hearing this guidance from Him in January I took to my Bible to find passages which would be key in supporting my success this year.  I found so many great scriptures such as:

One book, however, kept popping up – King Solomon’s study of the meaningless life – Ecclesiastes.  It’s not a book to tackle lightly.  In fact, when pastors and Bible teachers warn us about taking scripture out of context, I would venture to say two books might come to mind, both the book of Job and Ecclesiastes.  Wisdom is not always easily understood.  It uses metaphors, symbolism, parables, and logic.  Jesus, Himself, was prone to sometimes confusing bouts of wisdom instruction.  The disciples, in John 16, sounded relieved when they say to Jesus, “Now you are speaking clearly and without figures of speech.” (Jn 16:29)  

But Ecclesiastes mentions “enjoy” throughout its pages.  In fact, you might say the entire book is figuring out how to enjoy this seemingly repetitive and mundane life.  Is it through knowledge?  Through wealth, food, drink, or other sensual pleasures?  Or maybe through wisdom – something God gifted King Solomon. This book’s sometimes confusing yet, intriguing study of life, drew me in wanting the keys to one of life’s greatest questions.  A question a new friend of mine said she googled just the other day, “What is the meaning of life?”

I hope you join me on this journey during the next 10 or 12 weeks as we let King Solomon’s in-depth look into the “meaningless” life work into our hearts and minds. I want to encourage you to read the entire book during the series. It’s 12 short chapters!  His truth-telling is sometimes raw and a little painful.  However, his honesty serves to strengthen our faith.  As Jesus once so famously admonished His disciples: 

In other words, love God and enjoy your life.


Enjoy Life: from meaningless to meaningful begins Monday, March 4.  Please encourage your friends and family to follow along by having them receive their weekly email post.  Sign up at Emboldened.net. 

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31 Days of God’s Wisdom

“Love the Lord with all your minds heart and soul.” Matthew 22:37

It seems when we Christians talk about our faith these days it’s so frequently focused on feelings, emotions – “from the heart.”  And while Jesus will ultimately be the judge of our heart’s true commitment, He also asks us to use the rest of our bodies to honor God.  It’s not enough to feel God we need to know and obey God.  Why? Because His Words are designed to guide us through this temporary life as best possible.  We want to become skillful not just at making a living but in making a life that is in line with our Holy Father.  Many of us have experienced life outside those guardrails – sometimes on a daily occurrence.  When we are rash with our decisions or emotions, quick to be angry, quick to take up the latest idea or get rich scheme, quick to enter into relationships without good judgment, we easily find ourselves outside God’s protective ways.

The words “wise” and “wisdom” are used 125 times in the 31 chapters of the book of Proverbs.  It sounds as though someone might be trying to get a point across to us!  Wisdom literature in the Bible includes Proverbs, Job and Ecclesiastes.  But for this series I’ll be focusing only on Proverbs.  You’ll notice there’s 31 chapters – perfect for a one month study of God’s messages to us about living life in His guardrails.  


But first and foremost, we need a right relationship with our Creator. Meaning we accept God in His three persons (Father, Son and Holy Spirit) as one God who created the universe and everything in it.  And that Jesus came as fully man and fully human to be the final, complete sacrifice to cleanse us of our sins.  In this way we may come before God, our King, as righteous.  He is omnipotent, omniscient, and omnipresent in our lives.  There is one way on this path and that one way is open to everyone who believes in Him.

Second, we have an assertion of a moral law operating in the world and there will be divine justice.  None of which has to do with IQ, wealth or even education.  There is an expectation by God to follow His moral laws.  And everyone, believers and non-believers, will be judged upon their death.

If we do not have these two foundations, then the seeking of wisdom has no foundation itself.  Without a moral King to guide us then we are guiding ourselves.  And we know how well that usually turns out!  Our selfish souls seek ease, seek comfort, seek pleasure above all.  Without an understanding and acceptance of a final, universal judgment then what does it all matter?  If you read back into ancient history, peoples without God sacrificed children to meet their desires.  They performed all sorts of sexually immoral acts (especially on women) to please their desires.  Murdered without out conscience.  It was the formation of God’s people through Abraham and Moses that brought God’s moral law back down to earth.  Setting us back on the path toward God’s future Eden on Earth.


And so, through people like King Solomon He spoke.  The king had asked God for wisdom and it was granted (1 King 3:5-14).  It is believed King Solomon spoke 3,000 proverbs during his reign.  The beauty of the proverbs selected for this book is that none of them are in conflict.  All cultures have their sayings – quick summaries of lessons.  But many times, they conflict with each other!  (“Look before you leap!” vs “He who hesitates is lost.”) God’s words are never opposed to each other.  

Toward the end of his reign, King Solomon turned to the folly he so frequently spoke to avoid and disregarded his own wisdom – proving we need to stay close to God at all times. In fact, God warned him when He gave Solomon this gift: “And if you will walk in my ways, keeping my statutes and my commandments, as your father David walked, then I will enlighten your days.” A good reminder to never take a day off from following God.

Proverbs are not promises.  They are generalized statements of what is usually true.  So, if you find a proverb that you want to disagree with first remind yourself that we humans are sinful people.  And second, God seeks to bring us into His ideal world.  We are practicing to live in our final home – the New Eden.


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A Plan for Us

The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18

I’ll be honest, I never thought I’d get married.  Partially because I just wasn’t raised thinking about marriage and partially because I was the product of a marriage based on very little respect for each other.  For many years, God allowed me to live my life in sexual sin.  I went from one man to another, sometimes only passing through in the night.  But God always has a plan for each and every one of us.  For me, that plan included being given the gift of a wonderful husband. 

In our early years, my husband and I weren’t faithful followers of Jesus.  But he, at least, had a Christian background from which to draw.  When I look back over our first 10 years of marriage I can see where I am grateful for that tension of knowing some of what God expected from us as a couple.  I say “tension” because whenever we live outside of God’s narrow path we can either 1) live like we don’t have a clue that what we are doing is ungodly or 2) have some concept of ungodliness which can then pull us into learning more.  We will be judged in the end so I’d rather not be oblivious to my sins and take the opportunity to work on them!

In our marriage we struggled for control.  Control of who would be the head of our household.  Control of our finances.  Control over long term decisions for our family.  Over discipline of our kids.  Over our time management.    Looking back, I was only doing what I had learned in my family home.  A weak father figure gives way to a power vacuum.  On the other hand, my husband came from a strong, godly father-led family.  And so the back and forth went on and on.

The woman said to the serpent, “We may eat fruit from the trees in the garden, but God did say, ‘You must not eat fruit from the tree that is in the middle of the garden, and you must not touch it, or you will die.’”  Genesis 3:2-3

There’s a lot of talk in feminist circles and the media about the “patriarchy” and how men shouldn’t “keep women down.”  But from the beginning God had a very clear plan for women and men.  Women were to be the “helpers,” assisting their Adams to be the best men they could be.  Like a good golf caddy, this is no job to take lightly.  Yet we arrive at Genesis 3 and Eve immediately forgoes her heavenly role.  Instead of seeking wisdom from her husband she is drawn to the words of the serpent.  The fleshly desires pull her farther and farther away from God’s plan. 

The man said, “The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.” Genesis 3:12

And the result?  As you can read above the entire plan is turned upside down.  Eve takes the lead and Adam falls into a weak position of blame.  Eve is punished by God for her role in the Great Fall with painful childbirth and the knowledge that men will rule over her.  But when you read the punishment of Adam, he receives a harsh future that effects every area of his life.  

I have to be honest and say that every marriage I have been around that was in serious trouble was a direct result of this upside down relationship.  That’s not to say there aren’t men who disobey God’s command to love their wives as Christ loves the church (Eph 5:25).  But so often in our modern world and as a result of the feminist movement which started in the 70s, women have jostled or demanded control in their relationships. Like all actions that go against God’s holy plan we see the results with weak husbands and overbearing wives.  And wives who underneath it all desire a man to stand up for them, to take charge, to love them to the point of sacrifice.  

Women of God, the idea of submitting to our husbands or future husbands does not mean we are second class citizens.  You’ll notice in Genesis 3:16 Eve’s punishment was to have men rule over her.  Therefore, it wasn’t God’s plan for men to “rule” over her in the first place.  Thankfully Jesus came to give us a new covenant, reminding us that although there is still a hierarchy of responsibility, every person is of equal value. A helper doesn’t mean you are less than the one being helped.  It’s taken me awhile to truly understand this.  What it means is we trust God’s plan.  And if we have chosen wisely, we trust our husbands who also trust God.  We trust them to take care of the family business.  We trust they will have our best interest in mind.  We trust they love us so much they want us to be content. 

If our husbands are not trustworthy in those areas or men of faith, who are we to blame?

He had seven hundred wives of royal birth and three hundred concubines, and his wives led him astray. 1 Kings 11:3

King Solomon was considered one of the wisest men of all time.  Yet it was his wives that managed to turn him away from God, to lead him astray.  Our role as our husband’s life caddy is so important that we can’t let what the world says about feminism and submission sway us from following God’s plan.  A good and godly wife holds so much sway over her husband.  And the world laughs at us thinking a bigger paycheck or fancy job title is what’s most important.  Our work in helping our husbands will take us a lifetime — much of the time simply modeling godly behavior, control over our emotions, showing love, showing faith in the Almighty and our men.

Eve’s veering from God’s plan, leading her husband to a great sin, can make me so angry at times.  But then I think about the times I placed myself above my husband and ask for mercy.  It took a lot of intentional work on my part to step back and encourage and teach my husband how to place himself at the head of our family.  He didn’t think I needed him, ever.  

Friends, whether you are a husband, wife, or not yet married we must stand resolutely against how the world wants to define marriage.  We can’t let the world define what “submission” looks like in God’s world.  His great plan for man and woman, joined together in harmony is just the example for what is the final plan.  The ultimate marriage between Jesus and His bride will be full of love, joy, beauty and compassion.  Let’s start today with making those fruits part of our earthly marriages.